Some people don't have the physical or emotional ability to support themselves. Instead of scorning them, be compassionate. Working for a charitable organisation will make you more receptive and pliable. It will be easier to let down your defences and form close relationships. Nothing undermines intimacy like a judgmental attitude. The next time you catch yourself thinking scornful things about an acquaintance, stop and ask whether you're being fair. Until you know an individual's back story, you can't possibly understand their situation.