A heated argument with a relative will erupt. Just because someone is older does not give them license to abuse others. If you're tired of listening to insults, fight back. Stop running for errands for someone who treats you like a servant. Tell a bigot exactly what you think of their narrow minded remarks. Above all, stop allowing others to remark on your personal life. Respect is a two way street. If you're not being treated with kindness and consideration, put the relationship on hold.