You're determined to maintain the status quo at home, but that isn't possible. Family dynamics are changing. You must accept the truth or serious damage will occur in your relationships. A growing youngster wants to feel that they can be more independent. Serious resentment will set in if you keep treating them like an infant. If an elderly relative is in need of additional care, face the truth. You can get help through a government agency or an institution dedicated to helping older people.